Navigating Divorce

You don’t start your marriage thinking it will end, especially in divorce.  You don’t think about what might go wrong, including all the ways you might sacrifice yourself and/or your needs in an attempt to fix what’s broken or even how you’ll attempt to contort yourself to make your spouse happy. And you don’t think about how you’ll feel when those things fail. One person cannot carry or fix a marriage alone.

When you come to the place where you are mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically bankrupt and you have nothing more to give to your marriage that feels one sided, you begin to explore what your options are.  You begin to ask whether or not your marriage is as healthy as it once was (or you thought it might have been). This is when the thought of Divorce finally becomes the solution you never thought you would pick.  

Hardly anyone takes the decision to pursue divorce lightly, and yet sometimes it’s the only path forward.   Divorce brings you face to face with your beliefs and values and it forces us to reevaluate how you’ve been living and how you’ll move forward.  And this is why receiving non-judgmental therapeutic support, regardless of where you are in the process, can help mitigate the emotional and mental damage that can happen, whether you were the one who initiated it or not. 

There’s no perfect science to navigate the process of Divorce. Yet having a therapist who understands the complexities of divorce along with emotions/memories it evokes is helpful in allowing you to feel less alone as you explore your feelings, grieve the losses, reframe your narratives and beliefs, cultivate deeper self awareness and gain personal insights so you can find your way forward. Through this work, you not only begin to redefine who you are, you also rediscover and reconnect with pieces of yourself that you’d lost along the way.  

Divorce doesn’t mean you’re a failure, it means you've decided you want something different for your life (and the lives of your children). Sometimes, it’s the kindest, most loving thing you can do for everyone involved. Divorce is an opportunity to heal yourself and your relationships and rebuild your life in a whole new way, where you come out stronger on the other side.

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